Showing posts with label pet loss grief. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pet loss grief. Show all posts
Sunday, July 8, 2018

4 Kind Things To Say And Do For Someone Who Has Lost A Beloved Pet

The hardest part of loving an animal is saying goodbye. It can be difficult for others to understand especially if they don’t have a pet. Still everyone wants to offer comfort to a grieving pet owner so here are four kind things you can say or do for someone who has lost a beloved pet:

1. I’m so sorry for your loss. 
A simple, heartfelt sentiment that acknowledges the pain the pet owner is in at this difficult time.

2. My favorite memory is...
Sharing something sweet, touching, and memorable about the lost pet will bring a smile to the owner.

3. Offer something in memory of the pet. A donation to their favorite rescue, a candle lit in memory on Rainbow Bridge or send a card acknowledging the loss.

4. Give them a hug
Sometimes no words are the best way to show your support. 

Anyone who has lost a pet knows it's like losing a beloved member of the family. The grief that follows is a natural process that you must go through. It will differ for everyone, some may go through it quickly and others may have a tougher time. There are resources for the grieving pet owners, websites, books, forums, and counseling, but often a friend just knowing what to say and more importantly what NOT say can be the the kindest act.

Four Things Not To Say or Do To Someone Who Has Lost A Pet 

1. He is in a better place
 The pet owner may not think that is the case. Chances are that they think the "better place" is here with them. 

2. How old was he? 
Seems like an honest question, but somehow it may feel like the amount of grief is dependent on the age of the pet. Young dog...tragic. Old dog... to be expected. But the grief they feel will not matter the age of the pet. 

3. My pet had cancer too-- 
It is natural to want to empathize through sharing similar experiences, but at this time they will not want to hear your tragic story. They just want a friendly ear.

4. Too bad you didn't try XYZ treatment ... 
Pet owners have to make healthcare decisions based many factors including their beliefs in treatment, availability of medical support and financial ability. The treatment plan may not have been your choice, but now is not the time to address them with the heartbroken owner. There is no benefit to second guessing.